Last week I hosted my ninth retreat at Aldermarsh. With such a magical number, the powerful 3×3, it should come as no surprise that in many ways it was the best, most powerful retreat so far. I experienced this for myself as a teacher / host / priestess, and I heard from many participants that they went deeper and had the most transformative experience that they’d ever had on retreat.
Four women in particular were initiated into a deeper level of service to their sacred callings, not by me, but by the land herself and by the container of the retreat experience. Deer, Rabbit, and Coyote showed up unexpectedly to underscore the call. It was a profound moment for all of us in circle in Marsh House to see each of these animals in turn emerge from the brush into the meadow near us at a particularly appropriate moment.
After leading nine retreats, I feel like I am finally getting really good at it. Every retreat, and every participant, is a teacher. That’s one reason I spend so much time in re-entry mode, reflecting on the retreat. I sort through things that went very well, things that were a surprise, things that could have been improved, personal messages for myself, and glimmers of which way to go next.
I still believe that the main purpose of going on retreat is to get away from your everyday life in order to refill your well, to slow down, and to practice radical self-care. But I am coming to see that — at some retreats and for some people — it’s much more than that. It’s a true time-out-of-time, a magic circle, a place between the worlds where transformation happens. It’s where we pray for the land and receive messages from her, where we create a new culture by practicing circle process, where we reach out in compassion and healing as we hear each other’s stories, where the ancient deep feminine archetypes come alive in each one of us, where we emerge not only refreshed but changed.
It is said that “what happens between the worlds affects all the worlds.” We each go home, taking transformation with us, planting it in our own communities, nourishing it, and awaiting a fruitful harvest.
This is how we change the world.
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